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Discerning Community

Updated: Feb 4

God knows what’s right in every circumstance. We do not. “There is a way that

seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death”. And yet, God installs us

as decision-makers nonetheless. He intends us to struggle through, and

answer, tough questions throughout our lives: Should I take the job? Should I

marry the girl? Am I becoming the man or woman God intends me to become?

How should I deal with pain and fear and temptation? Tough questions,

indeed. Huge implications.

King Solomon was an epic decision-maker. God told him, “I give you a wise

and discerning mind, so that none like you has been before you and none like

you shall arise after you”. Fortunately for the rest of us, Solomon passed along

some of that God-given wisdom, in the form of the Book of Proverbs. 

For tough questions, Solomon wrote, we must look first to God. One way to do

that, since he empowers us as agents of his wisdom, is actually to look to our

brothers and sisters in Christian community. Wrote Solomon, “a wise man

listens to advice”. Counsel from other people is one of our most powerful tools.

We needn’t use it for every question. But, for the toughest ones, we must.

Gather some people from BHLC—two or three, at least, probably not more

than five or six—who know you and with whom you’ll be transparent. Plan for

an hour or two. Describe your situation—the question, the background, the

possible courses of action. Ask them to discern with you, not to judge.

Encourage them to ask questions and help you search for wisdom. I bet you’ll

be surprised before the end.



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